This is something I have been wanting to write for a while,there seems to be a lot of people who think they know what a pastor should do and when they don’t do what they think they should they lash out at the pastor and the pastor’s family or they leave the church to find a pastor that will do what they want him to do. The pastor of the church you attend is not an employee of the congregation, He is not a whipping boy to lash out on and although he may be your friend that is not his primary role. I have seen a lot of people take their pastor as their friend first and when the pastor has to correct they get mad ,offended and leave the church. What people don’t realize is that after the President of the USA a pastors job is the next in line as being one of the most stressful jobs. A pastor has to care for people who will turn around and hate him for not agreeing with them. A pastor stays up at night praying for people who won’t change and will lie and accuse the pastor. A pastor’s wife will go through straight hell all the while whilst trying to keep her composure and a smile, being friendly to those who stab her husband in the back. His children will be held to standards that people won’t hold any other kids up to. And if they step just a little out of line then the pastor is “disqualified” in their eyes. Everyone will think they know the pastors job and know how to do it better. And if he stands up for biblical beliefs against opinions of people they will leave the church and talk bad about him.
In the end pray for your pastor more than you criticize him.
The word is very clear on this subject.
“Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over your souls, as those who will have to give an account. Let them do this with joy and not with groaning, for that would be of no advantage to you.”
Hebrews 13:17 ESV
The primary terms that describe the role of the pastor are “elder,” “bishop,” and “teacher” (1 Timothy 3:1-4) refers to the oversight of the believers, and it involves teaching, preaching, caring, and exercising authority where needed.
The elder also serves in the church as leader and teacher. In Titus 1:5-9, Paul urges Titus to “appoint elders in every city.” They will teach and lead the congregation in their spiritual development. Also, in 1 Peter 5:1-4, Peter addresses his “fellow elders” and tells them to “be shepherds of God’s flock that is under your care, serving as overseers—not because you must, but because you are willing, as God wants you to be; not greedy for money, but eager to serve” (v. 2).
Every church, whether large or small, needs a pastor who will shepherd, lead, feed, and guide the people to spiritual growth and service for the Lord Jesus.
Nowhere do I see doormat, punching bag, open to refute, no need to have respect for, come against them for no reason, don’t listen to their teachings, say harsh words to them, accuse them for no reason, come against their family, leave the church when they teach something that you don’t agree with.