1 Corinthians 16:13-14 (ESV) Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love.
Our world is in desperate need of men who are strong mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. Our world needs men who are willing to stand though the heavens may fall. Men who are willing to stand for what’s right no matter the circumstances. God wants men, real men who are willing to stand up for him. Are you willing to stand up no matter what?
1 Corinthians 13:11 (ESV)When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways.
Today we have too many boys with beards, men who stay children even though they can have babies and grow beards.
The swords of the warriors of the churches are dull,
We rely on the women to fight the battles in the secret place.Today in American Homes, American Society, and in the Lord’s Churches the exact same thing is happening. Because of a prolonged exposure to a misguided culture.. manhood, true manhood and True Fatherhood is slowly getting feminized until there is now very little masculinity left of them.
Far too many men have become detached, distant and passive in the 2 most important areas of their life — Home and Church. They no longer take lead; or show the imitative, they avoid responsibility. They run away from commitment and resist obligation; and they renege on the promises that they made to their wives, children, Church and Lord.
And this lack of manhood and father hood — THIS shrinking away of true men has hurt our families, society and our churches… and the damage done in the church has been no less staggering. many times churches have become stagnant or have decayed, as men cower in the background afraid to act; afraid to lead; afraid to accept responsibility; afraid to do the right thing… and many times in many places this lack of male leadership has created a void that has been filled by the ladies of the church… who many times do more work, are more commitment, will see things through to the end and know more about the word of God…many times when a job needs to be done in the church men will say, “i don’t want be in charge, but i’ll help — in other words i don’t want to be a leader, i don’t want responsibility, i want a way out…” there is a serious problem in our society — men are missing from action — they are backing away from their God given responsibility at home and in the church.
God has ordained father rule in the home and man rule in his church… Men are the ones in charge.. They are the leaders and with leadership comes responsibility… And far too many men have abandoned these posts of leadership — in the home, and in the church. They have left their posts and the damage has been great.
So, let me ask you men a question. When the first man and his wife were in the Garden of Eden, who sinned first, Eve or Adam? Eve did. Eve partook, and he observed. And then God comes in Genesis 3, and who does he call out for? Adam. He calls out to Adam, “Where are you?”
Why does he do that? Is it that he did not hold her responsible for her sin? No, we read in Genesis 3 that God came to her, spoke to her about her sin, that there are consequences for women today because of the sin of Eve. But God held the man primarily responsible, because he’s the head of his family.
That’s why we read in Romans 5:12(HCSB)12 Therefore, just as sin entered the world through one man, and death through sin, in this way death spread to all men, because all sinned …because of the man’s sin, the whole race fell. Women are responsible for their sin. Wives are responsible for their sin, but their husbands, in addition, also bear responsibility. What does this mean for your family? It means that the well-being of our wife and our family is our responsibility.
1 Corinthians 11:2(HCSB)3 But I want you to know that Christ is the head of every man, and the man is the head of the woman, and God is the head of Christ..
1 Corinthians 11:7-12(HCSB)7 A man, in fact, should not cover his head, because he is God’s image and glory, but woman is man’s glory. 8 For man did not come from woman, but woman came from man. 9 And man was not created for woman, but woman for man. 10 This is why a woman should have a symbol of authority on her head, because of the angels. 11 In the Lord, however, woman is not independent of man, and man is not independent of woman. 12 For just as woman came from man, so man comes through woman, and all things come from God. Paul says that the woman is the glory of the man. That means that she is the reflection of his affection, that if she is flourishing, it should be because of his loving investment and involvement.
You men need to know that we will stand before God. You husbands, in particular, need to know that we will stand before God, the Maker of heaven and earth, the one who knows and sees all, and we’re going to give an account for ourselves, as men. And if we’re privileged to be husbands, we will also give an account for our wife. And if we’re given the great blessing of children, we will also give an account for our children. They will give an account, as well, but we will give an account for everyone that is under our authority.
This is what it means when the Bible uses the language of “head,” that we are responsible, in the sight of God, for the well-being of our wives and children. And so, men, you need to know that if your wife struggles or fails to grow in godliness, if your children struggle or fail to grow in godliness, it is your responsibility in the sight of God; in addition to their responsibility, but it is your responsibility, as well, and that’s what the Bible means when it uses the word “head,” and it does so in many places.
Ephesians 5:22-32(HCSB)22 Wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord, 23 for the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of the body. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so wives are to submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her with the washing of water by the word. 27 He did this to present the church to Himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or anything like that, but holy and blameless. 28 In the same way, husbands are to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hates his own flesh but provides and cares for it, just as Christ does for the church, 30 since we are members of His body. 31 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. 32 This mystery is profound, but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 To sum up, each one of you is to love his wife as himself, and the wife is to respect her husband.
Colossians 3:18-19(HCSB)18 Wives, be submissive to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.19 Husbands, love your wives and don’t be bitter toward them.
1 Peter 3:1-7(HCSB) In the same way, wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, even if some disobey the Christian message, they may be won over[a] without a message by the way their wives live 2 when they observe your pure, reverent lives. 3 Your beauty should not consist of outward things like elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold ornaments[b] or fine clothes. 4 Instead, it should consist of what is inside[c] the heart with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very valuable in God’s eyes. 5 For in the past, the holy women who put their hope in God also beautified themselves in this way, submitting to their own husbands, 6 just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. You have become her children when you do what is good and are not frightened by anything alarming. 7 Husbands, in the same way, live with your wives with an understanding of their weaker nature[d] yet showing them honor as coheirs of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.
Men we are called to Love our wives and Women you are called to obey and respect your husbands there is no variable in this. But what exactly is love?
1 Corinthians 13:4-7(HCSB)Love is patient, love is kind. Love does not envy, is not boastful, is not conceited, 5 does not act improperly, is not selfish, is not provoked, and does not keep a record of wrongs. 6 Love finds no joy in unrighteousness but rejoices in the truth. 7 It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
In the covenant of marriage, Jesus Christ is the capital-H Head. The Head of your marriage is Jesus, and the lowercase-h head is the husband, and the husband is to be part of the church, and learning about Jesus, and seeing how Jesus loves and serves and sanctifies the church. And then he’s supposed to take those examples from Jesus, and by the power of the Holy Spirit, be something like Jesus to his wife, so that she’s cherished, and she’s nurtured, and she’s loved, and she’s pursued, and she’s forgiven, so that she grows in godliness and grace and gloriousness, that the woman is the glory of the man, that she reflects his investment. As a church matures and grows, it reflects the service and the sacrifice of Jesus. So it is with the woman. As she grows, and flourishes, and as her children grow and flourish, it shows the service and sacrifice of her husband and her Lord.
Here’s the bottom line, guys. You need to love her like Christ loved the church. You need to take responsibility like Jesus took responsibility. You need to pursue her. You need to invest in her. You need to care for her. You need to cherish her and nourish her with the grace that God gives you.
Now, what this doesn’t mean—Ephesians 5, and Colossians 3,1 Peter 3, and 1 Corinthians 11; the Bible says this many, many, many times—what it doesn’t mean when it says that the husband is the head of the wife, it doesn’t mean that men are the masters, superior or the bosses over women.
And when your wife is not flourishing, or your children are not flourishing, we will ask the same question that God asked Adam, “Where are you?” And what we will want you to do is take responsibility.
The essence of masculinity is the taking of responsibility. It doesn’t matter how much beer you can drink, or how much meat you can eat, or how loud you can belch. That does not make you a man. A monkey can do that. A gorilla can do it even better than you. That doesn’t make you a man. We live in a day where masculinity is defined by some sort of ridiculous machismo. Ultimately, masculinity is about taking responsibility. You may not be big. You may not be tough. You may not be able to win a thumb-wrestling match, let alone a cage fight. But if you take responsibility, you are a good head, and you are a masculine man. “Masculinity means initiation. To be masculine is to take initiative. To provide direction, security, stability, and order. To lead. To head. To husband. Masculinity means initiation. “Initiation is the bottom line of masculinity. It means taking the lead. The lead in providing, protecting, mentoring, and befriending. It means caring for and developing our mates, our children, and ourselves. It means taking the lead in apologizing. The lead in seeking forgiveness. The lead in vulnerability. Masculinity means initiation. Masculinity means warrior.
The Warrior function is unmistakable in Scripture within the epistles, the mature believing man is often described in militant terms–a warrior equipped to battle mighty enemies and shatter satanic strongholds.
The heart of the Warrior is a protective heart. The Warrior shields, defends, stands between, and guards…He invests himself in “the energy of self-disciplined, aggressive action.” By Warrior I do not mean one who loves war or draws sadistic pleasure from fighting or bloodshed. There is a difference between a warrior and a brute. A warrior is a protector…Men stand tallest when they are protecting and defending.”
Whether he’s stepping on bugs, or checking out the sounds that go “bump” in the night. Whether he’s confronting a habitually abusive Pee Wee Football coach, an insensitive doctor, a cruel boss or shining a flashlight into a spooky attic. Whether he is carrying groceries or helping women and children into the last life boat on the Titanic. Men stand tallest when they are PROTECTING and DEFENDING.
Maybe these are some of the reasons why the most humiliating thing you can call a man is a “coward” And maybe – just maybe – the warrior in a man explains something else about him. Ever notice how aloof a man can appear at times? Could it be that the warrior in him is a little out of sync? Soldiering after all, is connected with pain. And pain hurts. A warrior gets accustomed to strapping on layers of protective insulation. Even a tender heart can be effectively hidden under a ½ inch of armor plate.
When you’re made to be a protector and a soldier, it can be hard to display that tender side. Every parent of a little boy knows that warrior tendencies are aport of the package. They arrive when the boy did. It doesn’t matter if you never give your little guy a toy gun, he’ll use his finger.
Underneath the warriors breastplate beats a tender center. in every man there is a tender side. the side that connects to another. that has the thirst for relationship. the desire to touch and be touched. to hug. to link. to be with.
now understand that there is a big difference between tender and soft… we want tender warriors..not soft males…Webster’s dictionary nicely distinguishes between the 2 terms. “tender” — expressing or expressive feelings of love, compassion, kindness, affectionate, as in a “tender caress, considerate careful. where soft is used to describe individuals that are “mild, effeminate, easily yielding to pressure, unresistant to molding, untrained for hardship…
Masculine sensitivity will never and should never match it’s feminine counterpart. The average male will never be as sensitive as the average female. Don’t even try… just accept it. Accept her finely tuned sensitivities, because the difference is part of the creators planned complement. So don’t overdo… but do loosen up. it’s a long way from macho to soft.. and we need to come down somewhere in the middle…
That’s what the Apostle Paul did, he was a fighter, a warrior a man who faced hardships and difficulties head on… a man who stood the test and faced every challenge… a man who sent ripples not only across his world, but into the world to come. his impact has spanned the centuries… Paul possessed a fearless spirit, a strong will and a fiery persona.. Yet, there was so much more than this to Paul, for you see underneath his breast beat the heart of a tender warrior;
1 Thessalonians 2:7-8(HCSB)7 Although we could have been a burden as Christ’s apostles, instead we were gentle among you, as a nursing mother nurtures her own children. 8 We cared so much for you that we were pleased to share with you not only the gospel of God but also our own lives, because you had become dear to us.
We have been given by God (regardless of what the feminists say), the responsibility of leadership in the home. The questions that we just asked should concern us because we are responsible for the health of our home. It is without a doubt a tough, a demanding and sometime thankless job, BUT GUYS don’t lose hope, because the job will go a lot easier for you when you are walking with and leaning on God.
1) MEN what our families need, what our wives and children need is US! Our society tells men that what their families really need is what their increased salaries can buy them; a better bike, a newer video game, a nicer home, a fancier car, the most stylish clothes, a 3 karat diamond ring, a country club membership, a computer or even their own credit card. MEN are families don’t that stuff. They need us!!
2) Our wives need husbands who will obey the command
of God in [Eph5:25-28].
3) Dads our kids need us…They need to know that we care more about them then the football game, our career, our bank account or the guys at the office. We need to spend time with them? Talk with them? Teach them Christian values like: integrity, right and wrong( and discipline them when they do wrong), we need to teach them the value in hard honest work. We need to let them know that we are available at any time to help them with their struggles. They shouldn’t have to make an appointment to be with US! Dads the most 3 important things we can give our children is our time, unconditional love and training and instruction in the Lord.
TENDER WARRIORS WILL answer the call to action in their churches.
Too many Men have been missing for to long from the front lines of the battle field . The enemy is gaining ground and our fellow soldiers are tired and need our help. Men it’s time that WE run to the battle!!!
IT’S TIME TO LEAD..